Some stupid bitch on Woman's Hour is telling me that the reason I don't have children yet is "fashion" and "no encouragement to stay in the home from our greedy governments who just want us to pay lots of tax". So nothing to do with the fact that our increasingly Thatcherite economy has made it impossible for my partner and I to aquire a secure home, or indeed jobs that would allow us to comfortably bring up children? Presumably Patsington should just go down the mines and I should stay here on my own and have a baby a year. I'm really, really fucking fed up with so-called experts telling me that I don't have children because of my enormous selfishness, as opposed to actually wanting to wait until P and I are in a situation where we could bring up a child in a secure situation. I'm tired of being told that it's "selfish" for any woman to want to earn her own money, and I'm tired of the other argument, of being told that women are "forced" to work by our cruel world, as if the stay-at-home world was some sort of idyll (perhaps those who extoll this should look at the rates of Valium prescription to all those happy housewives of the past). I know lots of people do want to stay at home with their kids full time, and I support them, but I hate this compassionate conservative argument that those who don't are being compelled to do so against their will, when they're not selfish bitches who put their children's welfare last.