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i now pronounce you...

I am back! Yes, Patsington and I have bid farewell to lovely sunny gelato-filled Italia and returned home to, well, quite warm actually Irlanda. Unfortunately, I seem to have picked up sonme vile lurgy and am all bunged up. Bah. But anyway, it's not that bad to be back, apart from work of course. I've been doing more big features in recent months (as opposed to my usual job of doing lots of relatively short ones on top of my editorial work and my four books pages) and had a very big one to do as soon as I got back, but as most of my colleagues have never worked as features writers, they don't seem to realise quite how much time a 2000 word piece based on two very long interviews will take, so the designer calls me every five seconds to see is it finished yet. A freelancer would have been given at least a couple of weeks to put that together - I had three days, including doing the actual interviews AND I also had to do loads of my usual editorial work AND put together two mini-interviews for the fluffier sections of the publication.

Anyway! Enough moaning. The wedding is over, and with it all the hideous wedding-related stress. The ceremony itself was lovely, although I did kind of charge up the aisle at top speed, leaving my poor parents far behind me. We hadn't been able to decide on the perfect arrival music for our musicians (leedy and Busta J, and my friends Angeline and Pól) so in the end Patsington serenaded me with one of his own songs what he wrote for me. The readings were from John Donne (I have loved this poem since I was 15) and WH Auden (look, it mentions frogs!), and then we were married and Jenny and Lisa sand 'This Moment' by the Incredible String Band, which my parents sang at their own wedding, and the Reverend Bill said "you may kiss the bridegroom" and I did and walked down the aisle with our arms around each other feeling very happy.


And then came the reception, which was initially lots of fun but got more stressful after the feast and the (very nice) speeches. Oh, I was so pleased with myself for exerting a near-fascistic level of control over the musical sections of the evening (although I did ask a couple of friends to do DJ sets, I wasn't too bad), spending days putting together the perfect dancefloor playlist on my iPod. Unfortunately, this meant that I had to deal with the technical problems of the sound desk acting up, as well as constantly checking with my DJing chums when their sets were going to end. This was all surprisingly headwrecking. But it all worked out, and everyone danced like mad to everything from Stevie Wonder to the Slits, and I got to play Huggy Bear's seminal riot grrrl classic 'Her Jazz' (the Huggies would probably not approve of being played at a wedding, but still), and my sister Busta J and I achieved our dream of getting everyone to do synchronised dance moves (to our childhood favourite, Paul Simon's 'You Can Call Me Al' and Five's Joan Jett sampling 'Everybody Get Up' which is one of my all time favourite guilty pleasures) which was awesome (there are photographs of all this, unfortunately). One of my friends said 'It's like being at a brilliant club with all your friends!' which was the best compliment I could have received.

I was SO tired by the end, though, and P and I staggered up to the (vair, vair fancy) Shelbourne Hotel, where the staff had left out champagne and chocolate-covered strawberries, and we felt terrible that we were too knackered to appreciate it all and collapsed into bed. Of course, I couldn't collapse before I had taken out the ten zillion pins that were holding up my very impressive hair (a v fancy stylist who works a lot for the magazine did it) and worked out all the knots from the backcombing. Oh the romance of it all.

So there you go, I am married. I don't feel any different, even though I've read lots of articles saying "oh, you think it won't be differen when you're married if you've been living with someone for years, but it is". Actually, it isn't, and I'm not really surprised, becuase as Patsington said during his speech, we've both felt so right together for years, and the wedding was just to celebrate something lovely that already existed.

Thank you all for your congratulations, by the way! I shall post again later about things that have been rocking my world – the genius of Philip Reeve, the sheer joy of campy German soap operas (you can watch one online about rival ice skaters, one rich, one poor, embroiled in a fierce class war!!), gorgeous Italian food – but I haven't had my breakfast yet, so it will have to wait.

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le_hollie
Apr. 5th, 2008 11:02 am (UTC)
Congratulations! The day all sounds very wonderful.

Which publication do you work at?

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daegaer
Apr. 5th, 2008 11:04 am (UTC)
Welcome back!
stellanova
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:07 pm (UTC)
Danke! And thanks for coming along the other week - I wish you could have stayed for the whole thing. We must meet soon!
biascut
Apr. 5th, 2008 11:06 am (UTC)
Oh, I'm so glad you had a good time! You and Patsington coming down the aisle hugging each other was particularly sweet: with all your hair up, you looked like such a 60s couple and awww!

And the music both iPodded and live as truly excellent!
stellanova
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:07 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! I'm glad you had a good time too - worrying about whether people were enjoying themselves was another stress-causer.
glitzfrau
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:29 pm (UTC)
I had a FABULOUS time! It truly was like a very very elegant club with all my friends there! And you looked so happy!
stellanova
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:57 pm (UTC)
The stress only kicked in sporadically! But there were times when I felt like a small child on the verge of throwing a tantrum at her own birthday party. Still, all in all it was a great day - thanks again for gracing it with your glitzy presence!

BTW, you really should check out the German ice-skating soap (see the link below) - it is ridiculously addictive. I've just watched three episodes in a row!
slemslempike
Apr. 5th, 2008 11:57 am (UTC)
Oh, it all sounds wonderful, I'm so glad you had a lovely day.

Also I very much want to see a German soap opera about rival ice skaters locked in class war.
stellanova
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:06 pm (UTC)
How's your Deutsch? You can watch it all (every single episode, and it's been on every day for a year and a half!) here! It is SO awesome - lots of ice-skating, and the working-class heroine is genuinely kind of cool and snarky and likeable. Her rich rival (whose father owns the rink) is also hilariously evil.
fox1013
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:48 pm (UTC)
Yay!

Congratulations, and this is SUCH a nice post to read; your joy pretty much jumps right off of the page. Well, screen.
stellanova
Apr. 5th, 2008 12:55 pm (UTC)
Aww, thanks so much!
chiasmata
Apr. 5th, 2008 01:11 pm (UTC)
Awww, congratulations! I'm glad it all went so well and that such a good time was had!

Also, I'm totally going to go and watch that German soap opera.
glitterboy1
Apr. 5th, 2008 03:09 pm (UTC)
Hello! Welcome back, and congratulations again! It sounds a fabulous day - I'm so glad that it went well. For all the stress in the run-up, and in keeping things organised on the day, I hope that what will stay with you are the good things - as I'm sure they'll stay with everyone who was there.

And yes, anyone who's met the two of you knows how right this is, and how worth celebrating. It's so good that you've been able to do that, and with so many lovely people.

Boo about your lurgy, though - I hope you're feeling better soon!
cangetmad
Apr. 5th, 2008 03:42 pm (UTC)
Welcome back! I had a lovely time and Patsington's serenade was the loveliest thing I've seen in quite a while.

I thought the lack of feeling of the holy sanctity of marriage was missing because I only have a heathen mockery of the holy state. Glad someone else feels the same - you and Patsington are you and Patsington no matter what the official records say about you.
seriouspenguin
Apr. 5th, 2008 04:21 pm (UTC)
Welcome back and once again, congrats! It sounds like everything was beautiful and fun.

And I agree, all that stuff about it "being different once you're married" is bunk. The PC and I were together for over a decade before we married, and we approached it pretty much the way you say -- celebrating a great thing with family and friends.
jinxremoving
Apr. 5th, 2008 04:43 pm (UTC)
Happy wedding! It sounds beautiful.
anglaisepaon
Apr. 5th, 2008 05:40 pm (UTC)
Welcome back, and congratulations! It sounds like it was a wonderful day.
alltheleaves
Apr. 5th, 2008 09:09 pm (UTC)
That sounds like a really beautiful day and I'm glad you have such fabulous memories of it. I love what Patsington said in his speech, it makes so much sense. And I didn't feel differently after we got married either. It was just the right thing to do.

Your post on Florence has made me desperate to go!
ainsley
Apr. 6th, 2008 05:49 am (UTC)
Congratulations, and welcome back!
starfishchick
Apr. 6th, 2008 05:11 pm (UTC)
Congratulations! I'm glad it was a good time! I wish you both many years of music and happiness!
stringy
Apr. 7th, 2008 03:28 am (UTC)
Congratulations! Sounds like you and everyone you love had an awesome time. Here's hoping the awesomeness continues for you and Patsington :)
mollydot
Apr. 8th, 2008 10:21 pm (UTC)
Congratulations!
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